1. When a child erupts, most adults rush to fix it. The 10 second rule starts with not fixing anything. Those first seconds set the rhythm: the child scans your face, not your logic. If your tone spikes, they read alarm. If you breathe and hold eye contact, they read safety. What they feel in those ten seconds builds their sense of trust more than any lecture. 2. Emotional shutdowns begin when urgency from you collides with fear in them. Phrases like “Stop crying” or “Calm down” turn safety into

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